Posts Tagged Healthy relationships

“Fattening Relationships”

 We thrive in a mutually healing and gratifying experience. When that dynamic is unbalanced or missing, we can be left achingly hungry. Sometimes we may expect too much from someone and other times, we may not seek enough. If a relationship has become tedious or unhappy, we are faced with another opportunity to heal.

Using food as an analgesic can numb the pain but also blind us to the beauty in life. Without realizing it, we put food between ourselves and certain toxic relationships among family members, collogues and friends. Sometimes, we believe we can’t live without someone even when we no longer like being with that person. Other times, our reasons for coming together no longer support staying together.

Acts of self-healing are possible at any time. We open to healing every time we make a healthy food choice, rest when we are tired, tell the truth or correct our course and act bravely on our own behalf.

“The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children”

How many of you who have been struggling with your weight since childhood (regardless of what you weigh now), know this little girl? It is time to pay more attention to all the body image issues our daughters and granddaughters must face today.images.jpglittle girl

A Message To Ourselves and Our Children

“Ring the bells that still can ring

Forget your perfect offering

There is a crack in everything

That’s how the light gets in.”        Leonard Cohen


Can A Relationship Be Junk Food?


Do your relationships12ways nourish you? Are they satisfying? Do they help you to love a little better? Any relationship that falls short of having a positive impact on your growth and well-being needs your attention.

A relationship is “junk food” when it stunts your growth and impairs absorption of life’s everyday miracles. A friendship, a family member or a co-worker that routinely leaves you feeling guilty or worn out cannot nourish you and may even set off unhealthy cravings in the same way refined sugar sabotages your appetite.

Here Are Some Ways to Stay Nourished in a Relationship:

1. Spend time with people who demonstrate love and respect for you. “Talk is cheap.”

2. Notice how you are being treated, not just how special the other person is. Don’t be seduced by someone’s talents or charisma.

3. Love people because you want to, not because you need them. Love is a byproduct of caring, not need.

4. Be forthright and forthcoming, even if it may be uncomfortable. Holding things back disconnects you from others….Even if you don’t think it will. Ask for what you need.

5. Listen well. Hear what isn’t being said and respond to that. 6. Keep in mind that people change over time and so do relationships. Sometimes you can heal a relationship that is important to you and sometimes you cannot.

Is there a relationship in your life that needs your attention? Who was the first person that came to mind?