Posts Tagged self love

“The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children”

How many of you who have been struggling with your weight since childhood (regardless of what you weigh now), know this little girl? It is time to pay more attention to all the body image issues our daughters and granddaughters must face today.images.jpglittle girl

A Message To Ourselves and Our Children

“Ring the bells that still can ring

Forget your perfect offering

There is a crack in everything

That’s how the light gets in.”        Leonard Cohen


Don’t Feed A Starving Spirit Bread

images9TADCVNWSpiritual starvation is often self-inflicted. It has different degrees of severity as can all forms of mal-nourishment. When our spirit is starving, the symptoms are the same as when our mind or body is starving; lethargy, weakness, confusion and irritability. When we are not in touch with our heart to remind us we are enough and have enough, the quality of our lives diminish. Spiritual lethargy clouds over all aspects of our being and we are vulnerable to feelings of emptiness and loss.

A starving spirit can affect our immune system, making our bodies more susceptible to illness. When we cannot access the love in our hearts, we can be very hungry, indeed. Traipsing around, outside our hearts, makes it difficult to retrieve enough of the spiritual resources we need to overcome our most powerful urges to eat that are not biological in nature.

There is no “quick fix” to developing a healthy relationship with food or with yourself. The ultimate solution is a matter of maturity, introspection and spiritual discernment. It is a lifetime endeavor. We learn better ways to take care of ourselves over time. Fortunately, there is enough love and deep appreciation in our heart’s pantry for how we chose to live our life. We have enough courage to get through our physical and emotional problems and our soul’s struggles with feelings of worthlessness, shame, loss and grief—and all the accompanying pain. We find enough wisdom to know the truth and strive for wholeness.

For the spirit….. “Enough is a feast.”     Buddhist Proverb


The Saggy, Baggy and Oh-So-Loved Grandma

images.jpg elephantI had just finished reading a pile of books to my darling 4 year-old granddaughter, Rosie. Among them was The Saggy Baggy Elephant, a favorite I remember reading to my children when they were little. It’s one of those “Little Golden Books” that addresses the well being of so many who have felt different, lonely or have struggled with their self-image and what they look like.

[Recap: Happy little elephant thinks he’s dancing beautifully until a rude parrot starts to make him doubt himself, his body and who he is. He tries to change but cannot. Life is too hard so he hides away in a cave. A lion approaches and in anguish, the little elephant lets out one last trumpeting bellow. A herd of big, grey wrinkled elephants arrive on the scene and the lion runs away. Saggy Baggy thinks the elephants are the most beautiful creatures he has ever seen. When they remind him he looks just like them, he goes back to his dancing and lives happily ever after.]

Back to my story: After Rosie and I had a snuggle, she pointed to the loose skin flapping around under my arm and said: “Grandma, are you fat?”  My reply: No, Sweetie…. I’m just your Saggy, Baggy Grandma!” We both laughed and went back to snuggling.

Can you think of an incident when you had a reaction that was totally spontaneous, without a hint of self consciousness that ended in a moment of pure joy?